All month long at MOMentum we are participating in the Love Dare Challenge for Parents based on the book by Alex and Stephen Kendrick. Each week we are wrapping up the challenges with some real life experiences from some of our Daring Mamas who are participating in the challenge.
This week’s wrap up features Julie Mabus, who attends MOMentum at Whitehouse AM.
Tell us a little bit about the child(ren) in your family…their ages, personality, etc.
I have a 3 year old daughter and a 15 month old son. My daughter is a “typical” girl. She’s into princesses, wears dresses every day and loves to color and read. My son is a “typical” boy. He never stops moving, climbs and thinks of doing things that my daughter never considered, like climbing the bookshelves. I think my daughter’s love language is quality time though she needs them all. My son’s love language is probably physical touch because he always wants me to hold him but it could also be that he’s still pretty little.
In your own words, summarize this week’s challenges
Love is not irritable: this is a tough one for me. I know that my tone of voices says a lot more than the words I say. I can speak nicely to my children and husband but in an irritable tone and the words are totally negated. I get annoyed easily with my children especially for acting like little children. I need to remember that they are still learning and though it might seem obvious to me that if you have one shoe on the correct foot it is not always obvious to a 3-year-old that the other shoe should then go on the other foot without asking if it is correct.
Love wins hearts: my children are still very young and I don’t think I’ve lost their hearts. My challenge will be to continue to work to keep them. It’s easy to get frustrated with their immaturity and constant need for direction but I would prefer that they come to me for direction and to have their emotional needs met than for them to seek it from outside sources who do not care for their eternal souls.
Love cherishes: I take opportunities throughout the day to hug and kiss my children. I tell them I love them throughout the day. Little hugs and snuggle time show them that I cherish them and am so glad that God chose me to be their mother. I am constantly convicted on the great privilege and honor it is that God put them with me.
What was the reaction of your children from this week’s challenges?
My kids are so little that these challenges are more for me than for them. They don’t really see beyond themselves. I however know that that will change as they get older and my actions will speak louder than my words.
What was your personal takeaway from these challenges?
For me keeping a tight reign on the tone of my voice was reinforced. I know that I am easily irritable especially when I’m tired and it’s easy to speak unkindly to my kids since we are together all day. It’s easy to take them for granted but I know that they are a gift for me. God has given them to me and has high expectations on how I am to raise them with my husband. The things I do with them now as little children will have a great impact on who they become in the future. My goal is to pour Christ’s love into the hearts of my children so they feel loved and cherished in our family and that they always come to me or their father when they need advice or someone to support them.
Julie Mabus has been married to husband Mark for 6 years and is a mom to Camille (2 1/2) and Ezra (9 months). She attends MOMentum at our newest morning meeting in Whitehouse. Julie is mostly a stay at home mom but works very part time as an occupational therapist. Julie enjoys gardening, canning, cooking, reading and art in general.
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